How to tell if your friends gay

My boyfriend, who is a straight male, has had a best friend also male since they were in high school. Several years ago his best friend came out as gay, which of course is perfectly fine. I believe my boyfriend values this friendship a lot because they both accept each other, have a shared history, have similar interests, etc….

While his best friend is pleasant toward me, he tends to push the boundaries of what I feel is respectful to my relationship. Also, when the three of us were last together we talked about going to a particular restaurant together. Please help? Not that the relationship is bad but what seems to be influencing it is not good, IMHO.

Let me see here…hmmm…go to a restaurant that includes you, or go to the restaurant with a guy who has no issue with interfering with your relationship without you? I am struggling with where the confusion lies. I have no problem in preserving the sanctity of my relationship and the very personal constitution that defines it by stepping up and lay down the law.

I am a gay male with many straight friends. I myself, try to be respectful. Things would be more comfortable if actions changed ask him to speak with his friend about always including you or making it so that you would be included directly after. Or ask if you may speak to him. Impress that you are not trying to end a friendship, simply become more part of a circle.

I have some gay friends, men and women, who are edgy at times. Those times are when we are just having fun. Edgy can be funny. There are times where I am a bit edgy with my friends, perhaps for a minute or two, but I respect the boundaries.

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It also has the potential to go too far. When being edgy gets to the point in the way that Dreaming describes, when it gets disrespectful and in your face sort of thing, regardless of social situation, I believe there is some pathology involved. It can be funny or immature depending on the person and how far they choose to take it.

He tends to blur the line between friendship intimacy and relationship intimacy because he lacks intimacy in his own life. He may be caught between a deep need for intimacy and a deep fear of intimacy which is why a push-pull relationship with a straight man allows for this endless cycle.

I think he may have a bit of an issue with his own sexuality which is why he continues in this somewhat unhealthy cycle with a committed, straight guy. He also needs a relationship of his own from which to get love and acceptance from. Any chance of discreetly hooking him up with a masculine, straight-vibed guy? Get him on a gay dating app like Grindr, Scruff, Squirt or the like.